Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Visiting networking



Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain
The weekend is around the corner and we are ready to mingle around, What should we do if we are hosting a party or if we are invited? What if I'm not in the mood? Is it commitment or just a friendly gather up?
Para ver el futbol
Soccer meeting
As you may seen in this blog, I'm an easy person to come along to parties or events (sometimes I follow them) but not everyone has the same temper to make relations. So if you are a homey person and mostly ashamed to introduce yourself at some events, I will give you some tips that may help you to consider assisting to this events and to make them part of your life.
The first type of reunions to consider are the family ones. At least in latin american cultures, is considered a comittmet, because the family is a really important part of our lives and even if there is some distance or time in the middle, at the end the family always is side by side on the most important dates and events. So if a cousin invites you to his birthday party, my suggestion is that you make some time in your agenda and go. If you see that you are not adapting to the situation, because it's your family, you can always make a graceful flight and come back to slice the cake.
Tardeada
Evening meeting
Other kind of reunions are the ones related to your job, you may be invited to a lunch or a cocktail -- and I am not speaking about the working meetings where there is a box lunch involved -- I am relating to those meetings that require a little networking and are additional to any other working meeting with your boss or colegues. Sieze this events to increase your friend and contact network. This doesn't mean that you are going to make your new best friends forever, but you can have some good professional contacts at a lot of this events, and maybe at a near future you can have some business with them.
Finnaly there are the friend's parties, sometimes made by oneself or by a group of your closer firends -- this are made to catch up and keep in contact-- usualy by having a theme in common, a social life or simply because is your friend and you like him or her. This type of meetings are really fun, because there usually is a lot of trust and relation time involved. My suggestion is that you try always to meet your friends to make your network bigger and better.
So even if there is family, work or friendship, always make an effort and try to catch the most different events you can, so you will increase your network.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Krystal and Adriana

Adriana & Krystal
Kindergarden, basic, junior high, high school, languages, undergraduate, graduate, now what's next? You  have made all that you "should" and... now? It was something that has been hunting me for the past 9 months. I was looking for something that fulfill my interests, that make me happy, but I didn't know what I needed, ergo I don't know how to ask for it.
(Krystal Castro's Story)
I had a friend that was my confident about my food story, she send me a whatsapp and in a hurry se told me that I had to turn on the radio and listen to Adriana Esteva. My friend, as everyone who listen to her, dive into concentration, peace and full attention, because it's so moving what she says and the way her words fit into your own story, the astonishment is that you aren't able to blink. My friend was so influenced that she ask me to go with her and meet Adriana in person. She has a couple of workshops, so my friend again become my confident in our search of diets, pills, creams, belts and scales.
I start my research about Adriana. So I Googled her and found her internet website. I realized she had a book, obviously I went to the bookstore and buy it.
Cuando la comida calla mis sentimientos
I start reading "Cuando la comida calla mis sentimientos" (When the food silences my feelings) a tuesday on July. It was a stormy evening, but nothing stopped the momento, I had to read the book. Twelve hours took me the reading and I couldn't stop reflecting myself on that pages, I had never read a book in that fast way and with that comitment. Adriana has this way to place all my feelings at different times of my life, she could put into words some emotions I couldn't describe and that I had never relate to my nutrition. After this amazing finding, I searched on the social networks, I started following her in Facebook, I had this curiosity to know what else she had to share.
The next day, she posted that she was going to have another radio program, so I tunned her and the magic started. She has this enchantment way when she talks and her words bring me a lot of light, at the end of her program she pronounced a act: "Whatever I decide is what I need and its going to bring me light". I really believe on her words and continously I repeated it without knowing what it was going to trigger. 
5 minutes later, Adriana posted on Facebook: "I need an assistant, please inbox". I write to her and started sharing about my wounds, this is not a way to ask for a job. Her answer was simple, clear, direct: Can you meet with me at the coffee shop in Altavista? I didn't know where it was, Mexico city is huge, but I was determined to find that place.
Post en Facebook
Post en Facebook
Thursday was the day we meet face to face. I arrived sharply at our appointment, but my internal egos started the boicot: "For sure you are going to meet your serial assasin". "As soon as she look at you and see you that fat, she is not going to hire you, like your other jobs" "My family won't agree about this job". It was a cosmic, wonderful, enlightning encouter, my demons just went down. The mintue I started to share my personal and professional life we realized that in this mission we had a lot of things to share, so Adriana choose me to help her on this process.

Our adventure officialy started on friday, the same week I went to the workshop "Comiendome mis emociones" (Eating my feelings). I like that everyone could had this experience, it fulfilled my soul with so many emotions, and above everything I stopped looking for answers outside me, today I have a lot of planns and activities, I'm renewed to share this healing sinergy for every one with eating disorders. I hope that a lot of people had the opportunity to meet Adriana and start this wonderful process.
(Recommendations by Ana María Zermeño):
a) Any oportunity to relate with other people allows you to open doors in different aspects, don't let your emotions control your networking skills.
b) Let your personallity flow, your experiences and your knowledge will introduce you as a warmth human being with a lot of clearness on its interactions.
c) Cheer you up and search for jobs in different sites, at any moment you could find interesting opportunities.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

United Nations Networking

King's Pub

I had a closer encounter of the third kind with people from different nations, so I had to seize the cultural diversity that emerge here and try to maintain contact with them.
I'm recently living in Mexico city, and my long time social network are supporting my arrival to this place by making it warm enough. I think it has to be with my friends personalities and their willing to maintain closer relationships besides the distances.
The past week, my Peruvian-Miami alumni Omar visited the city. He contacted some of his friends to tell them about his job visit and explain that he was with some peers from other countries. The girls that are really well organized decided to have the meeting on Thursday, before everyone get back to their homes.
Perú, Guadalajara, República Dominicana, Etiopía, Monterrey y Ciudad de México
Peru, Guadalajara, Dominican Republic, Ethiopia, Monterrey and Mexico city
And because Lily from Guadalajara and Me from Monterrey were here, we had representation from different national cultures. This "reunion" make us meet at an English Pub with live music. As I have told before, when the people didn't know each other very well, the music became important, because it allows sharing different themes or learn something new.
At the Pub we had the privilege to meet Ermias from Ethiopia and Angel from Dominican Republic. That's how the group call the reunion the United Nations Assembly.
Brindis Tapatío
Tapatio Toast
We share a lot of information about our countries and share different toasting ways, that was one of the learning outcomes from the group. We had a "Padre" evening as in México will be called, "Chevere" Central and South America Style or "Arif" the Ethiopian way.
Other important aspect to tell is about the music as group integrator, even some of the songs were not well known from everyone, the mayority of them were hummed from the most of us. By the end of the evening, we had our personal contacts and planned to continue with the friendship via email.
So here I share some recommendations to make networking with personalities from different countries:
a) Consider that music and toasting are grouping elements, as always with modesty and following the integration rules.
b) Have oppeness to meet people, religions and manners, what constitutes disrispect for someone maybe in a different culture consitutes just a social way.
c) Get advantage and obtain your new friends contact data, maybe you can contact them when at their countries, your new friends will be an important documentation data.

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Farewell Networking

I have to move to another city and now I have to say good bye to all my people. I have a lot of things going on my mind and I don't know where to start, so I'll use again my networking, for sure something good will arrise from here.
About a month ago I accepted a job offer in Mexico City, and I have to move quickly. First thing is the communication strategy, I have to tell my family, friends, family, peers, colleagues, among different people. Of course this experience have a lot of embeded emotions, some people just get really happy, but some others became happy-sad, but gladly everyone is likely to help.
reunion familiar
Family Reunion
First I have to announce our change to my family, some of them live in Mexico City, so they help me find apartment, schools, services. This is an advantage that I shall not pass now that I have changed cities. I take advantage that my family reunited to my cousin's wedding, so we have some party days that became very useful for this purpose.
Maru, Elsa y yo
Elsa and Maru
Then I communicate to my local friends I have several groups that have regular meetings and they wanted to know the information and also to plan a farewell reunion. I made everything in my schedule to get together with almost everyone. I could manage a little road trip with a couple of friends. It was a beautiful experience and I also buy some stuff for my new life.

My family also had some personal meetings, and because this kind of friends do not get lost, it's important to close circles to get ready to open some more. It became a colaboration and cooperation cicle among us just to get our schedules ready to fullfill our comitments. It's important to mention that my kids get some really beautiful friendship tokens, like a surprise farewell, that involved a lot of logistics for all my family.
Magda y Sandra
Magda and Sandra
Some social media that became important in this process was the telephone, facebook and whatsapp. The answer of our family and friends was amazing and I still keep saying goodbye, and making networking now contacting my friends and family from this city.


So I share some recommendations to follow when you plan to move from cities:

a) Try to send the information with some time in advance, it will help the people to contact you and give some advice on moving or getting in.
b) Take time to say goodbye to your friends, while making some activitie that you need to do, maybe you can save some time, the really important thing is that you get your friends involved.
c) Help other people to say goodbye to your love ones, it will support your strategy and liberate some time for the people that is leaving and need all the time and friendship available.