Networking Dating Tips 2

Earlier this year I wrote about my friend Hitch tips to get a great come out to a first date. I had a lot of comments about it and now I like to share Carrie Tips. She had 2 bad dates with a guy, and she gave him a third and last opportunity.

Theme 1: If you want to date a girl, do not use adjectives such as: "Vanilla", "Square", "Vain". She could behave as cold and distant she likes, and if you want her, you should make an effort to convince to date you, if you use this words describing her, probably she will apply them and won't go out with you.

Theme 2: Do not speak about the personal "days" of the woman, if your mother, colleagues, neighbor or any other woman share with you this information, you shouldn't repeat it with your girl. She will go to her friends and then share your conversation, of course you don't want to give her and her friends this impression.

Theme 3: You invited her out, and she as a complete lady, will dress up and use high heels, consider this condition and do not make her walk around a parking lot searching for your car. The gentlemen way should be to ask her wait for you at the door and go for the car and pick her up where you left her.

Theme 4: You invited her to dine, movies, bowls or any other place, for sure you will get some food and she will accept it, and then probably she will not finish everything. Do not take out her meal: popcorn, hot dog, desert, or whatever she didn't finish. Eventually she will go back to the food and you don't want to be known as the guy that finished her food.

Theme 5: If you went out, there is a possibility to go to the restroom. Do not let her waiting for you more than 30 minutes. She will be out of the toilet in no more than 15, and you have to consider that women services always have a waiting line.

Theme 6: If you went to a concert, and waiting to start, offer yourself to get some water or food, do not wait until she offers, but if it happens, and she offer to get the water, do not let her go and buy the food.

Theme 7: Remember this tips are for you to get a third date, so you have been pressing a little to get her say yes. So you convince her and at some point she offers to pay the bill, do not allow her, remember that you have some trouble to go out with her, you have to make her feel special.

Theme 8: Do not force the physical contact, if the things go well eventually you may approach her. But if she do not want, you have to read the signs, if you take her hand, she will lose up, if you hug her she will get apart.

Theme 9: If you invite her to a trip, do not ask her to pay for the plane ticket. My friend received the following message: "Carrie, lets go to the beach this weekend, can you pay for the tickets?" It was the second date and she will not accept the deal.

Theme 10: If you are asking her out for an event that starts before 10:00pm, invite her to a dinner after, so you may avoid eating her popcorn at the middle of the movie.

Of course you have to notice first if there is some chemistry between you and may skip some of this tips, but if things are not working maybe you are doing some of this mistakes and my recommendation is that you work on them to get the fourth date.

Carrie had her third date, but the gentlemen did 8 of the past 10 bad things, she won't go out with him again.

Fellow Networking

On the last days Mexico City was in an environmental contingency, this mean that some activities should be done to avoid sending more pollution to the atmosphere and stop the higher levels of it.

The measure that affected personally was the "hoy no circula" (One day without a car). Here you can do some preventions for always keep circulating, but in this case, the full law was applied, and the authorities asked for some citizenship considerations to support the measures and assure to lower the pollution levels. 

I suppose that this measures make some other people in this city to change their regular activities. But some of them do not change, I want to share some of this practises, that I consider the lowest level of networking for your fellows:

The way some people move poultry, shows a lack of hygienic measures, this can cause disease transmission of any type. The weirdest thing is that the police can see this type of pickups on the streets and do not do anything about it.

The contingency day, at least you couldn't see this vans, but just the alert was taken away, you could see the people doing this practises again.

Maybe this things are done, because the way a lot of people sell and buy products here, at the rolling markets. I don't know much about the way people move fruits, vegetables, cheeses or meats to this places. I just observe the way this products are offered. Me and my kids have seen that aren't placed at any type of refrigeration features. I believe this products could be kept at outdoor temperature, this couldn't be done at my hometown, anything could be kept this way, or you could be intoxicated.

Other type of activity was the coconut transportation, here the picture of the most "original" one:

I'm not sure if this practise is safe, the coconuts could fall down the car, may hit a passerby, hit another vehicle or just land in the middle of the street. I believe that there should be a correct procedure to move them without putting in risk other people.

So I share a thought to avoid annoying your fellows and generate a positive networking.

1.- In contingency alert, avoid running your car among the streets, give a positive example to your family, and use the public transportation: bus, subway. It will always be easier to continue doing your traditional practises that adapt yourself to a new way of life, but I recommend to do the effort for your community well being.

2.- If your are going to move meat, poultry or any other perishable item, use the right means to do it, closed trucks with fridge or cooler systems. Avoid transporting this foods on an outdoor van. Avoid environmental pollution and the disease transmission.

3.- If you are going to move other type of food, use the security measures that avoid accidents to your fellow passersby. Think of how mad you will get if a coconut hits your head.

Alert Networking

The past week the wind blew in Mexico City, and the alarms went on among different public places; one of them was the university where I work. When we were at the lunch break some canvas flew away and the sports field had some troubles, the security personnel ask us to keep inside the buildings and away from windows or possible flying objects.

Once the people and students were safe, the next request was that everybody has to leave the campus and stop activities for the day. The physical evaluation of the university lead to this activity. So I gather my team and ask them to take their laptops and go directly home. Taking the laptops with them will allow to continue their activities at home and preventing that the alert continues the next day so they could make home office.

Once the strategy was made, we say farewell and also requested the information on each team member arrival to home, so everyone could be sure that we were fine.

Almost everything was going quite well, but at the time I wanted to contact my son Mauricio, I couldn't reach him, the lines were saturated, there was no Whats app service, Internet drop down, I couldn't reach him by messenger, I couldn't communicate with him and give some instructions.

Once I arrive to my car, I found out that he wasn't there and I didn't have a clue if he decided to take a bus to go home, or if he was still at a classroom waiting for me to pick up him. I try for 15 more minutes until I have luck and reach him by phone, he still was at his high school waiting for a parent to pick him up or to a bus arrival. So I asked him to move to our car and he gave his teachers this information.

The next activity was to make contact with Arturo, the second of my sons. It's important to let you know that he has school transport and he has to be delivered to our house. So it wasn't that difficult to find him and ask him that he should not leave the house until we were all together.

This alert made me think about the little training my family has to react to this type of alerts. Where do we have to meet? What to expect the other will do? What to do if communications fail? How long wait to look for each other?

With this learning, I can give you some recommendations to allow the networking in alert states:

1.- Make a plan with your family taking in account your familiar places, the communications you have, time you have to wait for communicate, act in consequence. Of course you have to consider your son's ages and give them responsibilities according to them.

2.- Show some empathy with your team, ask them if they have trouble to move, or if their homes could be in warning zones.

3.- Be sure to prepare a communication line that allow you to know how everybody is doing.

4.- Remember to keep calm, you will achieve nothing by preoccupation.

5.- Make yourself useful by doing some actions that keep you safe and your love ones.

Concert Networking

Maroon 5 was at our city and furthermore that I'm a big fan, I couldn't help to tell you about my experience. I bought the tickets since last September, so this event was planned for about 6 months and as you may imagine, waiting for so long makes higher the expectations. So I had to do a little research so I can arrive on time to the place.

The total capacity of the Foro Sol is 55,000 people, as I could prove there should be that amount of people at that place, so we had 2 options, take the subway or take a taxi. My friends decided to take a cab, I think the next time we should consider better the first option, since we had a 2.5 hour ride. Of course you have to visualize the 55,000 people trying to get to the same place at about the same hour.

The show lasted just 1.5 hours, that was disappointing. I had waited for six months for a show of 1.5 hours? Whatever, Maroon 5 and specially Adam Levine, make a real show with their songs and the scenery. I realized that my research produce benefits because I knew all the songs, that was the best part of preparing for so much time. Personally I would like that the group had more interaction with the audience, but they perform their songs really well, and that was objective of this concert.

 

The interesting thing that happened to us at the concert was with a group of girls that were sited in front of us. When the concert started, the girls went up to their chairs, obstructing completely the stage and the screens. I had to tell them to get down so the rest of the people could watch the show. They went down and didn't get up again, so anyone had to copy that bad practice, at least in the spot we were sited.

So I share my recommendations for going on concerts:

1.- Organize with your friends, even better if you have the same taste, you will have fun.

2.- Seize the opportunity and meet before the event in a close location so you can have fun a before, during and after the concert.

3.- Do not allow other people mess up with your experience, tell them in a good way that everybody has the opportunity to have a good time and you will get some cooperation.

Mob Networking

Have you seen the reaction of a group of people to an injustice? Let me tell you about my experience...

I went back from a Southamerican trip the past Sunday, the plane landed at 9:30pm after a 3 and a half hour flight the crew take 45 more minutes delivering the luggage. The people from my flight seem to be really tired. Furthermore, there were 2 more flights form abroad so the customs process will be a little bit slow.

The people pick up their cases and then went to the line for an inspection to get out of the airport. I was chatting with Lalo Aspiroz, a friend of mine that was traveling on the same flight. And we both observe that there was a special line just for handicapped people. We commented that in some places that line also give service to diplomatic people, but this was not the case.

Suddenly into the line gets a lady in a wheelchair, and after her a woman and a man. Neither each of them needed support for walking and the woman made the indiscretion to tell out loud: "Don't ever think I'm going to make the line". The people near her became offended, that type of comments you should keep them for your personal thoughts.

Lalo told the 2 people that it wasn't a line for diplomatics and insisted they have to form in line as everybody else. The woman do not take care of the request and move forward, but he man answered that he has a diplomatic and that it was his line. And again Lalo told them, that is not your line.

By that moment every one on the zone was paying attention to what was happening and also the customs personal realized that they have to ask for the credentials or else, they were going to have troubles with the people. The woman showed some type of document that identify her as a diplomatic. With the man it was different, he has not a diplomatic passport and it became quite true that he was only showing off. People on the line started crying out loud: "Corrupts", "Make a line". "Officer, please do not allow to them going trough ."

The officer ask the man to step out of the line and also remove his VIP status. The people clap the officer decision. In this situation, the reaction from some of the people, made us realized that some mistakes could be solved if just a few people speak up.

Had you ever experienced a similar situation? Tell us about it.

Networking Dating Tips

Today's post is dedicated to those boys who have some troubles surpassing the first date. February 14th is coming and maybe you are planning to invite someone out, but you think about your past dates and remember you had bad luck or it didn't come out as you wanted. Don't worry, you are not alone and some guys have some problems moving forward this first date.

I was talking with my friend, let's call him Latinamerican Hitch, and he shared some advise that I write for you to consider the next time you ask someone out. First of all you have to think this as a business meeting, if you really like the girl, you will be convinced to close the business as soon as possible, so this business strategy may be useful to consider the tips.

Theme 1: Place and date The space where you are inviting her is very important, so you must consider taking her to a restaurant, preferably for dinner and where you may invite her a drink. Try that this date is on a week day, unless you are quite young, This is because on the weekends the restaurants have a lot of families or couples that may make you uncomfortable. You must feel some closeness and allow the girl to relax without the social pressure.

Theme 2: How much you know the place. You must learn about the place in advance, and know the menu and the food style they serve. Do you imagine that you invite her to a sea food restaurant and she is allergic? So before you invite her consider at least 3 different options on which she could choose, without letting her know that you have done a previous research.

Theme 3: Make a plan.  As in each business, its important for you to make plans in advance, once you know the  place and date, is important that you consider the table placement, where you will be seating, where you want her to seat. For you will be a complete interest in her so you must downsize distractions. She must feel comfortable also. If you have to make reservations, knowing the menu and prices, this is the moment where you consider this aspects.

Theme 4: Grooming. Even though you think you are not the most handsome guy in the world. For this occasion you want to consider your outfit and your physical presence. Make sure to take a bath, brush your teeth, use clean ironed clothes, maybe some discrete accessories. Remember you are trying to cause a good impression on her.

Theme 5: How to take her. It's important for you to pick up her where she is, she has to know that for you this event is important, that she is important for you and that you will place your full attention on her. So she will never arrive alone to the restaurant, neither leave by herself. You must give her the complete service, you pick up her and then bring her back. 

Theme 6: During the date. The most important thing is that you get to know her, so you may prepare for her several questions and themes you like to know from her. Her tastes, her interests, what she studied, her hobbies, if she has a project in advance, anything. Think as if you are investigating a future customer, you have to know what does the customer needs to then offer the best service you have. In this case, its the same, you must know what does she wants so you may adapt yourself to sell you as a candidate.

Theme 7: How much to order. You can't get drunk on this date, remember you invited her, and you are getting her back again. Also you have keep yourself together so you can pay your full attention. Because she is a lady, she will not get drunk, but always consider that you may even more if you are nervous, so don't get distracted on this theme.

Theme 8: Show interest but not hunger. She has to know at all moment that this is not a friend date, you don't want to stay in this zone. So as soon as you can, tell her your real intentions. You must make her get nervous when she is around you. But also is important for you not to declare that she is the love of your life, remember it's your first date and probably want more, so be careful on not to scare her.

Theme 9: The check. You pay, maybe in other cultures there is a wrong idea that the women and men are equal, but in dating events, the man always pays. And also remember you invited her.

Theme 10: The closure. Hitch told me that at the end of your date what you want to know if there are or not more possibilities of getting the girl. So you may want a good bye kiss. Don't throw yourself if you aren't sure she wants it to. If you are not sure, at the end of the date, send her a message telling her you wanted to kiss her. If the kiss do not arrive on the first date, you will have the perfect excuse to have a second date.

This suggestions will allow you to adapt your personal style, but if you follow them probably will have a good answer. The women like to feel attended and interested in us. After you get over the dating art, probably you may want to change some of the activities or the style in which you move. The most important thing is that you know if for you and her that was a pleasant experience.

Do you have questions on this? Send me  an inbox and I can take you to Hitch. If you made some progress, tell us about it.

Superbowl and Networking

The next sunday Superbowl 50 will be held and its a big opportunity to make a little networking. You may decide to gather with some friends, go to a restaurant, or watch it at home. Probably the next monday will be the conversation theme, my suggestion is to prepare a little basic information so you can comment on this event and sound intelligent about it.

Each year this tournament is held between the winner of the national conference and the american conference. The following table shows the teams that are at each site and how the groups are distributed. In this occasion Denver Bronco's won to New England Patriot's and Caroline Panther's overcome the Arizona Cardinal's:

So the teams that are on the superbowl are Denver Broncos with Peyton Manning as their Quarterback and Cam Newton is the Quarterback from the Caroline Panthers.

Nevertheless if your thing is not konwing anything about the american football, then you may comment something about other related issues brought in this event, like the commercials. This event hosts the most expensive television spots and of course very good production for them:

Last but not least, the superbowl is caracterized by having one of the best entertaniment halftime shows of the year. There have been huge surprises, like the Janet Jackson and Justin Timberlake performance. This year you could enjoy Coldplay, Beyonce and Bruno Mars. Personally I like a lot to watch this 30 minute break, so I share one of the best's I have ever enjoyed:

This sunday seize the opportunity, do some networking and don't feel an outlier, now you learn something that can share.

Tell us, How was your weekend?