Networking Dating Tips

Today's post is dedicated to those boys who have some troubles surpassing the first date. February 14th is coming and maybe you are planning to invite someone out, but you think about your past dates and remember you had bad luck or it didn't come out as you wanted. Don't worry, you are not alone and some guys have some problems moving forward this first date.

I was talking with my friend, let's call him Latinamerican Hitch, and he shared some advise that I write for you to consider the next time you ask someone out. First of all you have to think this as a business meeting, if you really like the girl, you will be convinced to close the business as soon as possible, so this business strategy may be useful to consider the tips.

Theme 1: Place and date The space where you are inviting her is very important, so you must consider taking her to a restaurant, preferably for dinner and where you may invite her a drink. Try that this date is on a week day, unless you are quite young, This is because on the weekends the restaurants have a lot of families or couples that may make you uncomfortable. You must feel some closeness and allow the girl to relax without the social pressure.

Theme 2: How much you know the place. You must learn about the place in advance, and know the menu and the food style they serve. Do you imagine that you invite her to a sea food restaurant and she is allergic? So before you invite her consider at least 3 different options on which she could choose, without letting her know that you have done a previous research.

Theme 3: Make a plan.  As in each business, its important for you to make plans in advance, once you know the  place and date, is important that you consider the table placement, where you will be seating, where you want her to seat. For you will be a complete interest in her so you must downsize distractions. She must feel comfortable also. If you have to make reservations, knowing the menu and prices, this is the moment where you consider this aspects.

Theme 4: Grooming. Even though you think you are not the most handsome guy in the world. For this occasion you want to consider your outfit and your physical presence. Make sure to take a bath, brush your teeth, use clean ironed clothes, maybe some discrete accessories. Remember you are trying to cause a good impression on her.

Theme 5: How to take her. It's important for you to pick up her where she is, she has to know that for you this event is important, that she is important for you and that you will place your full attention on her. So she will never arrive alone to the restaurant, neither leave by herself. You must give her the complete service, you pick up her and then bring her back. 

Theme 6: During the date. The most important thing is that you get to know her, so you may prepare for her several questions and themes you like to know from her. Her tastes, her interests, what she studied, her hobbies, if she has a project in advance, anything. Think as if you are investigating a future customer, you have to know what does the customer needs to then offer the best service you have. In this case, its the same, you must know what does she wants so you may adapt yourself to sell you as a candidate.

Theme 7: How much to order. You can't get drunk on this date, remember you invited her, and you are getting her back again. Also you have keep yourself together so you can pay your full attention. Because she is a lady, she will not get drunk, but always consider that you may even more if you are nervous, so don't get distracted on this theme.

Theme 8: Show interest but not hunger. She has to know at all moment that this is not a friend date, you don't want to stay in this zone. So as soon as you can, tell her your real intentions. You must make her get nervous when she is around you. But also is important for you not to declare that she is the love of your life, remember it's your first date and probably want more, so be careful on not to scare her.

Theme 9: The check. You pay, maybe in other cultures there is a wrong idea that the women and men are equal, but in dating events, the man always pays. And also remember you invited her.

Theme 10: The closure. Hitch told me that at the end of your date what you want to know if there are or not more possibilities of getting the girl. So you may want a good bye kiss. Don't throw yourself if you aren't sure she wants it to. If you are not sure, at the end of the date, send her a message telling her you wanted to kiss her. If the kiss do not arrive on the first date, you will have the perfect excuse to have a second date.

This suggestions will allow you to adapt your personal style, but if you follow them probably will have a good answer. The women like to feel attended and interested in us. After you get over the dating art, probably you may want to change some of the activities or the style in which you move. The most important thing is that you know if for you and her that was a pleasant experience.

Do you have questions on this? Send me  an inbox and I can take you to Hitch. If you made some progress, tell us about it.